tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4574537053233792444.post681024329274416792..comments2023-09-28T07:24:26.216-07:00Comments on 20 dates in 20 weekends: A Social Experiment: Seventy Five Per Cent: Intention and Forward ProgressUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4574537053233792444.post-18127103806550509292009-07-10T09:20:08.062-07:002009-07-10T09:20:08.062-07:00Thanks Kristin!!!
I hope you are well and I am se...Thanks Kristin!!!<br /><br />I hope you are well and I am sending you good vibes every day. You are a rocker.Spikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13184825553038436615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4574537053233792444.post-57429518944424099802009-07-08T16:10:16.577-07:002009-07-08T16:10:16.577-07:00Hey "Spike,"
You seem to have hit the sa...Hey "Spike,"<br />You seem to have hit the same wall of questions that my friends and I have all been at for a while. I think part of it is just this time in our lives (standing at the tippy-top of the unfortunate dating pyramid). Some things I have come to realize:<br />1. I also let people choose me, and then contort myself into whatever the other person wants me to be, then end up resentful and running the hell out of there.<br />2. At some point, the pyramid starts to re-open, as people outgrow their past partners or look for something new. We're all different than we were before (duh), so it makes sense that there are still endless opportunities to connect (at least this is what I try to convince myself most of the time).<br />3. It's NEVER better to settle (see above-referenced feelings of resentment).<br /><br />Hang in there. You have learned a huge amount about who you are and what you are looking for in a partner throughout this process, and you're now armed with those tools. Thanks so much for sharing this with us, and good luck as you move forward!<br />-metal_babeJillian McQueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16635120745679254038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4574537053233792444.post-35678230141010532012009-07-05T00:15:42.066-07:002009-07-05T00:15:42.066-07:00Hi Informix.
Great observations, and as it is such...Hi Informix.<br />Great observations, and as it is such a good one, I must remind you that once the observer becomes at one with the observed, which is inevitable in this type of set up, parameters change. I have come to understand that I am looking for much more than what I initially set out to find. I have also discovered more than I originally suspected I would.<br /><br />Additionally, I think you might be forgetting a very important facet of relationships; no matter how badly a man wants to take care of a woman, or vice versa, if this effort is not desired or appreciated, it is a wasted one at best; we are all operating under the paradigm of free will. When this type of effort is put forth, it is by choice, and should be put forth with the realization that it can either be accepted or rejected by the receiver.Spikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13184825553038436615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4574537053233792444.post-80807315762006390762009-07-04T12:34:57.183-07:002009-07-04T12:34:57.183-07:00Well...I am confused. Your endeaver was advertised...Well...I am confused. Your endeaver was advertised as clinical yet you appear to have actually been looking for something more. By giving the impression that your 20 dates were a social experiment you certainly steered away many men who were looking for love and to be loved. You were working with a very skewed dataset, so to speak. Also, I don't know what you mean by "picky", but when a guy comes along who genuinely looks out for you and tries his best to make your life easier you might want to take a second look.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579710961454308275noreply@blogger.com